Have I been in Arghakhanchi for a week? A month? A year? I can't say I agree with 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day right now. Everything feels both augmented and compressed. With the endless amount of time I have to sit and think, I've come up with three reasons why I might feel this way:
(1) I'm giving myself short-term memory loss with the number of times I've hit my head. I'm above average height in America but have never felt particularly tall—here in Nepal, I feel like a giantess. I'm guaranteed to knock my head every time I enter a new house, and I'm averaging about three hits a day in my own room. Since I haven't learned to stoop yet in the month I've been at site, I'm not sure I'll ever learn.
(2) I've suffered a complete loss of autonomy and feel like I'm right back in childhood. I am escorted everywhere I go, either by my host sister or her young sons. I appreciate their attentiveness and know it's only for my comfort and safety until I become more familiar with the area and can better navigate situations using Nepali, but it's still the hardest part of this process for me so far. I've also been paraded from house to house to meet various community members, and the conversation very quickly progresses past my comprehension level. I often just sit there while the grow-ups chat around me, every so often hearing my name or getting a glance in my direction. Am I 23 or 10 years old? Sometimes I'm not sure.
(I was warned that I'd consume excessive amounts of tea during these meetings, but I wasn't prepared for the amount of papaya that would be offered to me! I know I shouldn't complain about eating fresh, local produce, but papaya has always tasted like dirty diapers to me, and I don't relish having to choke down a few pieces at every house.)
(3) Lastly, and most plausibly, is that I'm driving myself crazy from all the boneless days. This lack of routine is entirely my fault, and it's something I'm committed to improving in May. The general outline of my day revolves around meals and is the always the same: wake up at 6:30, breakfast/snack at 8:00, lunch at 10:30, tea at 2:00, evening snack at 4:00, dinner at 8:00, and then retire to my room at 9:00. It's the hours in-between that are interminable. I've also realized the harsh sunlight offends my vampiric tendencies from noon to five o'clock each day! I need a routine to distract myself.
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My room. I'm really digging the storage space |
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Bathroom set-up. I'm using muscles I've never used before |
Like previous posts, there's a loose theme for this one: my first month at site, told in fragments and short impressions. Some days, ten new things happen. Some days, I sit and read and watch the clouds move over the hills.
These first months at site are all about observation and integration, and I think I'm making good progress on both fronts. Here, I go by Sahana Rayamajhi—the first name given to me by my first host family, the surname from my current host family. I was taken to mothers' group and agricultural co-op meetings, where I introduced myself; the attendees seemed to understand my Nepali, which I'm taking as a small victory. Nepali is coming slowly, as I orient myself to a different accent and dialect.
My host brother is an English teacher, which has been helpful for understanding what is going on around me and feeling understood, but it's probably stunting my Nepali. The other members of the family include: my host sister, 35 years old; their two sons, aged 8 and 10; and the newest members, six chickens! Most of my time is spent shadowing my host sister as she visits family and neighbors, and works in the kitchen garden in front of our house.
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Rainy day at site |
I arrived at site on a Wednesday, and my first big cultural celebration was Chaite Dashian on that Saturday. It's a Hindu holiday celebrated with animal sacrifices for the goddess Durga—a sort of a complement to the most major Nepali festival, Dashian, which takes place six months later in September. It's also the last holiday before the Nepali New Year (which, to my suprise, my community didn't celebrate; regardless, Happy 2082!).
On Chaite Dashian, my host sister and I hiked to the Supa Deurali Temple in Narpani (I'll write about the legend behind the temple, along with the history of Arghakhanchi, in my next post). It was super crowded with pilgrims and their goats; the goat heads left at the temple as offerings, the bodies taken down the road to a picnic area to be eaten. My hosts' extended family graciously invited me to their picnic and, like all Nepali celebrations, we ate and danced for an uncomfortably long time.
I reciprocated the cultural exchange by celebrating Easter with my host family. I didn't touch on any of the Christian aspects of Easter, and instead, like a pagan, described it as a sort of spring festival. It was my first time using natural dyes on eggs and it turned out halfway decent. We used mulberries for a purple-black color, mulberry leaves for yellow, and hibiscus petals for pink. My host sister enjoyed the process, and I've recruited her to help experiment with more colors next year. I tried to explain the egg hunt tradition, but I wasn't able to get that across. Instead, we just ate the eggs for our afternoon snack: a syncretism of American tradition and Nepali resourcefulness.
We celebrated Mother's Day with my host sister's mother and sisters-in-law at her maitighar—a married woman's parental home. In Nepal, after marriage, women traditionally move into their husband's family home, joining his parents, paternal grandparents, brothers, and any unmarried sisters. Although my host's sister's maitighar isn't far from our house in terms of distance, getting there required a combination of walking, a bus ride, and a taxi. Much like Mother's Day in the U.S., we brought over a cake and some scarves as gifts and gathered to celebrate motherhood. There'll be a second round at my house, as I'll make sure to celebrate my host sister on May 11th too.
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Supa Deurali Temple on Chaite Dashain |
The environment in Arghakhanchi is wildly different from anywhere I've previously lived. The forests here are a mix of S
horea robusta (sal),
Pinus roxburghii (Indian pine), and
Rhododendron arboreum (rhododendron). My young host brothers and I often make trips into the forest (we've seen monkeys many times) to collect golden Himalayan raspberry,
tiju, and
kaphal fruits
. The boys are like mountain goats; no cliff is too steep for them to scramble up and down. I know I wasn't that daring at their age.
The weather is bipolar, oscillating between apocalyptic storms straight out of the Book of Revelation and days that hit 80 degrees before noon. The veranda above my room was destroyed one night during my first week at site by non-stop rain and strong winds. It's since been repaired, but that ordeal was a lesson in Nepali time management. I'm getting a preview of what's to come during monsoon season; March to early June is the hot season, while mid-June to early September is the rainy season.
The diversity of fruit trees here is incredible. I've seen jackfruit, mango, lychee, papaya, pomegranate, and banana trees, all within a five minute walk from my house. Slowly, I've been helping more and more with agricultural work: first harvesting potatoes, then weeding the onion fields (I saw lamb's quarters and wood sorrel most frequently. We ate the lamb's quarters with rice for dinner (Nepali: bethe ko saag)), and, most recently, planting ginger and turmeric.
The best days, the ones when I feel most productive and most at home, are those I get to work communally with my family and our neighbors in the fields.
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Local school and hills near my house |
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Planting ginger and turmeric. Piles of manure (Nepali: gobar mal) pictured here |
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Kaphal tree w/red berries |
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Chickens! |
That's all for now. It was hard to pare down all the anecdotes swirling around in my head, but I hope this gives you a snapshot of my life at the moment. I'm looking forward to more adventures in Arghakhanchi!
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Here I Yam! @ my host sister's maternal house
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